I think it's important to stand up for what you believe in, but in so doing you're going to offend and possibly hurt someone who believes differently. I believe that you should be able to do what you want as long as it doesn't hurt anyone or yourself. I know that Mom was very much against homosexuality, and as a result many of her words and actions hurt my brother and my sister. We always look to our parents for acceptance, and when it's not there it can be devastating. I believe Mom had a right to her beliefs, and I believe she thought she was doing was she thought was best for her children. But I'm learning so much of what she said and did to hurt my siblings that I'm questioning how a mother could do that to her own children. Some would call it tough love, I guess, but I think a parent should give unconditional love. But at the same time, I think a child can only blame a parent for so long before they just have to get over it and move on. I've made mistakes as a mother and will probably continue to do so, but I hope my daughters will be able to forgive these mistakes and move on w/o holding them against me or w/o holding themselves back.
I have a family friend for whom I used to babysit, who is now sitting in a federal jail on charges of viewing child pornography over the Internet. I believe that child pornography is wrong, but I also believe that this guy wouldn't hurt anyone. Yes, he's made some bad choices, but I just don't understand how he can be facing ten years in prison while the makers of the child pornography go free. But I digress.......I'm struggling tonight to figure out why we hurt the people we love, and why we can't forgive the people who've hurt us. We carry a lot of extra weight when we're burdened w/ hate. Catholics believe in purgatory, a place where they must go to burn off their earthly sins before they can enter heaven. What if the life we're living right now IS purgatory? Perhaps earth is the place where we burn off our mistakes, and each time we do we're rewarded w/ a new baby or a new friendship or a new life in heaven. Maybe when we pass from this life, it's b/c we've burned off all our mistakes and can now enter heaven.
Right now I believe I'm very tired.
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