My fast track students presented their persuasive speeches this morning....well most of them were informative, but one of them hit a little close to home. She talked about making our final wishes known to our friends and family. She said she didn't want a funeral for people to say, "How good she looked," b/c she wouldn't look good, she'd look dead. It just hit me wrong b/c Mom didn't look good, and I wasn't happy w/ the way she looked....they didn't give her a smile. And then I thought how we almost gave Mom a funeral she didn't want, if it hadn't been for my sister finding Mom's final wishes. Writing down your final wishes only works if you let someone know you've written them down. I guess Mom had faith that someone would find them, or she just figured if we didn't, she'd still be just as dead and what would it matter. My student said funerals aren't important, but I have to disagree. Funerals, like cemeteries, are for the living to have closure, but I have to agree that such closure shouldn't come w/ a $10,000 price tag.
I did learn something interesting from that student's speech in that there are only certain places where cremated ashes can be spread, and you have to contact the DNR to find out where they are. Now honestly, how will they know if my family takes my ashes and lets them fly in the wind from the top of a lighthouse? They can just say they were cleaning the fireplace. Yeah, that could work. So I guess I just made my final wishes known: toss my ashes off a lighthouse and the rest you can do as you please in whatever way helps you grieve and/or celebrate.
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